Why not to meet the parents

I'm not saying that you should never meet your boyfriends parents, in fact i think it can be a brilliant bonding experience, not necessarily the other way round as girls parents can be very protective but a boyfriends parents always seem to be welcoming to a girlfriend. The problem is when you break up.

I think if you are under twenty years old, its not likely that you will marry the guy and a break up will likely happen. When i first got together with my ex boyfriend i used to go to his house nearly all the time, and of course because of this i would see his parents a lot. They are really nice, i liked them straight away. Then his birthday came around and his dad asked me if i wanted to go out to dinner with them, and before that he would have a driving experience. I was really excited to spend time with them as part of the family, and whilst he was driving i spent two hours getting to know his parent. We talked about so much, and they even joked about getting him to but me an expensive birthday present. Afterwards we went out to dinner and the night ended very sweetly with him falling asleep on my shoulder.

Fast forward a month and he had broken up with me. The breakup was hard but I'm finally starting to get over him, the thing is his sister is a good friend of mine, so i still see his parents a lot, and every time they smile at me, and wave through the window of their car when they see me walking. Its really hard to respect the fact everything is over and then smile at his parents and listen to their stories.

Only Children A Blessing Or A Curse

I'm an only child myself but most of my friends have a sibling and a lot of the time they tell me how lucky i am and how spoilt only children are. If I'm honest i always felt the same way. As a child i would always tell my parents there was no way that i wanted them to have another kid, i totally wasn't interested. The idea of sharing annoyed me and in my head just like my friends said only children were so much luckier they got everything they wanted.

But as i got older i started to realise being an only child means you are the only one your parents can worry about, so whilst all of your friends are enjoying themselves going out shopping, i was sitting at home because my parents thought i was too young to be in the town centre without them. The thing is even through that i thought that the benefits outweighed the costs, i could still spend time with my friends and i still got everything i wanted.

Recently though i found the big downside, the one where i have started to realise that have a brother or sister isn't that bad. It makes you strong and it makes you appreciate what you have with them. Today my friend found out that her brother and his girlfriend are having a baby. Today she told me how excited she is that she is going to be an auntie and i realised that i never will be one. I can marry someone with brothers and sisters but i will never be a blood auntie.

Is being spoilt really worth the sacrifice of missing out on your family, of having those siblings that you can rely on when your grown up and needs someone to talk to, Ive decided probably not!

Who do you look up to?

Everyone has a role model. They might not be famous or even well-known and you might not even think of them as a role model, but everyone has a person that they can look at and think “I wish I could be more like that”. Maybe it’s because they are cool, or friendly or you like their style, or maybe its deeper and on a more emotional level because you love their personality and what they stand for.

Well whoever it is, and for whatever reason their names was the one you thought of when you read this I think it is very important to know and understand that this person is your role model because when you’re having a bad day, and feel like you need a bit of cheering up, its your role model that you should look to for help and guidance. If your role model is an actor, watch them in their best movie, if they’re a singer listen to some of their music, if it’s a you tuber watch some of their videos, and if it’s a person you know go and talk to them. If you tell them about your bad day, it’s bound to feel much better soon because there is a reason that it’s that person who you look up to.

So let me know, who do you look up to?

Compromise

Sometimes in life we have to do things we don’t want to, but one thing we have to remember is not everything can benefit us all of the time. Sometimes when things go wrong and we have an argument with our friends we have to think that yes we are annoyed, and yes they have done something that has hurt us, but eventually we are going to have to forgive them, and if we can’t forgive them we are going to have to move on and find new friends. You might not want to lose your friend and you may feel like it’s hard to move on, but sometimes you have to accept when it’s not a proper friendship.

It’s the same when in a relationship. Sometimes when things go wrong and you have an argument you have to accept that you love them and that you are going to have to get past it, or you have to realise that things aren’t working out and you are going to have to end things, even if you are scared to, and if someone does the same thing to you, you have to accept that although things aren’t going your way, there isn’t anything you can do because you can’t force them to stay with you if they are unhappy. I’m not saying don’t fight for the one you love or try to work things out, but sometimes you have to accept that the person who means the most to you doesn’t feel the same, and it’s important to find someone who does

Finally there is family. When you have an argument with a family member you both have to respect each other and find a common ground, because unlike the other two, a friend or a life partner, you can’t choose your family. They are the people who are there for you when things go wrong with a friend or a partner, when you fall out with a friend, your family is there for you, when you break up with your first boyfriend, your parents are there for you, even when your forty years old and you break up with our husband, it’s your family who are there for you.

Remember you can’t always get your own way, and sometimes that’s the time when you show people you care about their feelings, when you compromise for them, and of course when things go wrong, your family is always there!