Friendship Groups

Most friendship groups contain the same groups of people; I’m not saying all groups are the same, but that if you look at your group you may be able to pick out these five different people. Not all groups need five people, as most people could fit into more than one of these categories.

The leader is the person in the group who is always part of the conversation. When they are talking everyone will listen, and they can often influence other members to do what they want. These are the people who are trusted with all of the secrets, and if they are a good person a group can work great together.

Most groups find they have an attention seeker. They aren’t all bad, but quite a few are. This person is the one who will over talk people if the conversation isn’t going their way, and sometimes even lie or put themselves in the middle of other people’s business in a bid to get some attention. What they do may be as little as just feeling the need to talk a lot, or as big as making up a story of something in their or others’ lives.

The peace makers work hard to make sure everyone gets on. Most groups will have at least a couple of people who often feel tension and it is the peacemaker who will often help resolve these issues and keep the peace. They are the nice calm people, and are normally really good friends with everyone in the group.

The crazy one is a great person to have in your group. They make all the jokes, pull in all of the laughs and are generally amazing people to be around. They may not make sense all of the time, but even when they don’t you can’t help but laugh.

The quiet one can hardly ever be heard talking. They may be shy and just sitting and listening, or they may have their iPod in and are on another planet, but either way they don’t say much, but the little things that they do say are always classic!

So look at your group and see if you can tell who is who!

When life gives you lemons... Make orange juice!

Some people are so predictable. When things happen they take the easy option, do what they think they should do and I don’t think people should.

Some people are followers, when there is a new fashion trend they will take to it straight away, and the problem with this is everyone ends up looking the same, being the same acting the same. The thing about that is when someone does step up and decide they don’t want to be like everyone else, that they want to be different then they are frowned upon, seen as weird and labelled.

We also have the leaders. These are the people who normally start the trends that everyone follows, and they end up acting over the top because in their minds, they are popular. This means they almost have a control over their followers, and quite often as their popularity rises they become more and more harsh with people, and putting down people who don’t live up to their standards.

This is the world we now live in, and I really don’t think it is fair on anyone. You see the leaders normally get the confidence to do what they do from an experience in life that has shown them that they have to stand up for themselves, something really hard. The followers then lose their individuality as they try to fit in with everyone else and the people who don’t conform are picked on and often feel really bad and down.

I’m not saying it’s easy, I fit in with all of these groups, I don’t follow the big trend with everyone else in my school but I do work hard to make sure I fit in with the group of people I hang around with, even though I don’t need to because everyone in my group is part of the individual people who don’t conform. I have had a few knocks in my life so I don’t let people put me down, and when I need to I will stand up for myself, even when I know it is mean and wrong.

The big difference is the people I hang around with don’t have expectations, and neither do I, I may work hard to fit in, but I don’t need to, and if everyone was like this, then everyone could maybe be happy. When everyone else is following trends do the unexpected. When everyone else is making lemonade, you should make orange juice.